Psychological problems and the treatments are within you
Why isn’t pulling your hair considered a socially acceptable way of dealing with distress while smoking is?
The worst-case scenarios are becoming bald and death from lung cancer respectively. Why are my relatives so concerned about my hair?
Because it should hurt. It does hurt. That puts most of us off pulling our hair. Hence, it's not unacceptable because of a logical reason, it's not acceptable because it’s unusual.
People like everyone to act similarly and process information similarly.
They don't generally understand that different people deal with things differently.
Do you think your pain receptors or sensory experience is different from other people? Are your family concerned about something like sensory processing disorder? It's quite common in those ‘with Autism’ or as many prefer, ‘those who are Autistic’. Would they be concerned about that? Neuro diversity would perhaps give them a better understanding.
The five warning signs of mental illness are as follows:
- Excessive negative thoughts or unusual worry
- Long-lasting sadness or irritability in all situations
- Extreme mood swings
- Cutting out of Socialism
- Dramatic changes in eating or sleeping
The most known risk factors for mental illness
Following factors may increase the risk of mental illness:
- Family history of mental illness
- Previous history of mental illness
- A lot of psychological or physical stress
- Traumatic experiences such as sexual assault, fight, or war.
- The unpleasant atmosphere in childhood like abuse, neglect, or bullying.
- Chronic pain or any kind of disease affecting the quality of life, such as cancer.
Is taking stress worth it?
Stress is the way you protect yourself from danger. In real emergencies, your stress response may actually save your life! Your automatic process - commonly known as the fight or flight mode - is activated. This gives you extra strength and more stamina to defend yourself or run away.
Possible Benefits of stress and anxiety
Stress, in other situations, can sharpen your concentration. That can help you during a presentation to be more accurate.
Stress too has limitations
But there’s a limit where stress stops being helpful and become harmful. This can affect your health, mood, productivity, and overall quality of your life.
It’s also important to mention that your nervous system isn’t the best at distinguishing the difference between emotional and physical threats; both are the same.
Why are some individuals constantly stressed?
Sometimes it’s outer stimulation; stressors. This can be a work schedule, rocky relationships, bad family situation, etc. Sometimes they’re ‘positive’ things like waiting for something.
Some people have their stress, self-generated. They worry too much about something that may or may not happen, they are mainly irrational - and the person is conscious of it - but cannot control it.
Some people are more stressed in general because they’re more prone to it, you blame that on genetics.
Some have suffered trauma and PTSD, and their brains are more prone to stress.
So there is no one reason why people are stressed.
Why are depression and anxiety the most common mental illnesses?
Depression and anxiety are both common mental illnesses because, contrary to things like borderline personality disorder or schizophrenia, there are strong environmental causes of depression and anxiety.
Put less clumsily, the death of a loved one and stressful event at work are not going to cause something like schizophrenia or psychosis in most people (although high stress can cause a psychotic episode in people if they are not sleeping/are predisposed to it). But those two things happening at the same time can cause acute anxiety and severe depression. Anxiety and depression can easily come in due to situational triggers, whereas schizophrenia seems to have a strong genetic component. Of course, you can be genetically prone to anxiety, but it is easier to experience anxiety and depression because of things that happen in your life; things that eventually happen in all of your life.
What ended up happening?
I broke myself down. I tore myself apart. I was my harshest inner-critic. I belittled myself for not doing this, and not being that. Instead, I took myself out of the present moment and found myself debilitated in making decisions to experience many aspects of life that others were able to experience, like dating, or traveling, etc.
I skipped out on all of those experiences.
Because I was not making any decisions! Just sitting on the sidelines wanting to act, but never could. My mind would mess with me, queried about the what-ifs.
It hurt. I was trying to break through this invisible wall. A wall that I had set up myself—against myself.
There is always a source of your anxiety and depression (assuming we are discussing them in a non-clinical manner). There is a key factor. You have to drill down to the source and dig into your past to learn and understand why. There is something in your past that was unresolved. I found mine. I accepted what happened. I examined it. I learned and I made myself calm it and I finally moved on.
I urge you to do the same, to take action for yourself, and to also take it a day at a time. Talk to yourself. Talk to yourself positively. Give yourself some credit and embrace your mistakes. Learn from them, accept them and move on.
Never belittle yourself.
“Do not forget to bet on yourself. You'll get to surprise yourself.”